Definitely a good reward

Little things that make us attractive  to other senses have the possibility of becoming bigger things in our lives, and how it affects us personally. What do you find attractive in a man?

Some say it is what he wears, while others say it is how he‎ wears it that appeals. A man who has a good sense of fashion and a taste of what is good will surely attract the female folk. A man in a suit is considered serious and well to do. Well, not all men on suits are, so we may as well stop misleading ourselves with these certain thoughts of how we can tell the personality of men with how they look and what they wear. This certain notion that how you are dressed will you be addressed is quite exemplary to how women relate to men and vice versa.

Being too serious all the time in what you wear can get boring eventually. Be vertical, diagonal, or horizontal. Be anything you want, but just do not stick to one particular style and dwell on it. Learn to change your style and be simple, yet sophisticated. Your man may not know fashion like you do or may not be interested in it as much as you are, but you do, and you are.

There are women who pick out what their men wear. It is not that the men do not know what to wear, but most of them are clueless on how to wear them and what fits. This is okay as long as there are women who can help them deal. Mind that whatever you choose for your man, relative, or friend should be nice and what they are comfortable on. Change the bad taste and style to good and let them be happy with it. A woman shares the right amount of drama of the men in her life. A fashion sense and style is one. Develop it.

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Poverty

      Normally, when one asks you what poverty is, what comes to mind is insufficient fund, general scarcity, or the inability of an individual to feed. I believe Poverty is more than that.
      Poverty is lacking in what can make you rich. Being poor in certain decisions make way for poverty. The condition or ability to become rich‎ not just in material things, but also in the physical, mental, and spiritual, and the inability to see that, is Poverty. The number of people living in extreme poverty are far more than what you or I can handle or imagine. 
      What makes Poverty a reality? Obviously the Corruption in ‎our country. But what about you as an individual? How poor are you in making decisions of your own? Can you tell the difference between what is right for you to do and what you are left with to do? 
      No matter how mature we think we are, we fail at certain moments in our lives, but how do we recover from these  failures?  ‎All these questions are what you should ask yourself as an individual and member of this society. 
      Poverty has affected the lives of several people in Nigeria, most especially the girl child.‎ Hunger kills more than the Ebola Virus, but it is not considered a significant problem since rich people cannot die of it. The Poverty striken are left with nothing but their decisions to either remain poor or work at getting somewhat rich, but some have no choice. 
      As a person, you may have just your mother or father taking care of you or both, with the fault of not having the time for you. This is not an excuse to become wayward or cause destruction to your personality.  
      At your age, you will be misguided because you will allow yourself  to be. You will know everything about being bad because you will be.
      Everything you do is based on your mindset. You may be poor or not properly looked after, but that does not mean you should go out of your way to make such poor decisions. Situations like these should rather serve as a motivation for you to achieve something in life to avoid Poverty now and in the future. It should also serve as that strength which you will need to push forward in life. Do things that will make you proud of yourself. Things that will have people wondering how you did it. 
      The Government steals our money by collecting and promising to do better for us in providing for our needs whereas satisfying theirs. The sooner you realise the Government or no one will help you but yourself, the better for you. Be your own hero! Bridge a gap between you and those friends of yours who mislead you into doing what you should not.   The pain and reality of life will surely come. It is how you deal that matters. 
      Fight your own fight in eradicating poverty and hunger in your life and do not depend on anyone but God to give you that strength and endurance to be the very best that you can be. 
      Sometimes it is not just about starting a new chapter. It is about burning that book and writing a new one.

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The beauty of Fashion

One aspect that confuses us about Fashion is how one can manage to be unfashionable. All over the world, we still see ladies looking like they are going for a carnival on a Monday morning.  Being unaware and insecure about Fashion can be one thing. But being unaware and insecure about the right type of Fashion can be another. You want to dress nice for yourself and the people around you? You want to have people stare and comment on how good you look without having to be rude about it?. 

 Welcome to fashion where everything and every colour is beautiful. Where Fashion compliments the flowers, and where the flowers get jealous of it sometimes. Flowers are natural, but so also is Fashion. Fashion is talking without having to say something. Your sense of fashion shows the beauty in you and what class you are in.  It tells people who you are without the use of words itself because it comes from within. You could be fighting your butt off in a cloth that looks more to people like a costume for a farm party, or you could get out there, see for yourself, and understand that everything including Fashion is changing.

Trying hard to fit in and forgetting how to be comfortable in your wears is not it. You can be free and stylish. That is it. It is all about class sweetheart. Wearing clothes that show how fashionable you are gives you a lot of confidence in yourself. Fashion and being fashionable can not only be glamorous. You can at certain and most times be that of course. But being fashionable is also about the simplicity in your dressing as a female. It is about clarity. Being clear on what is right  for you to wear to certain locations, at the right time.

 Wearing the best of clothes for the day and walking confidently to the right place with it is just like listening to your best song with the volume turned up, in a room full of people who  love the song just as much as you do,or even more, and having them sing along with you. It sure makes you feel good because you know you are a part of something wonderful,  as simple as it is.

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Silence

What do you want to hear? That I love you and miss you a lot? That the little time we had was never enough to evoke these feelings but somehow it managed to?.. that I wish you would stop and be completely honest with me?

How would it be to you when I am all that and you tire of me. You then have me wondering what it is I did wrong and why things changed between us. You make me feel that far behind because that is where you find it right to put me.

I am hanging onto a moment of your truth. The complete sincerity, honesty, clarity you give to me with heartfelt charity. You do not understand me, but in the beginning your words were all about getting to know me better. Was it me or was it the want for something more.

The desire came so clear that it pushed me off balance because I could not see. Did not see that other side of you because you hid so well behind your words and pretence. Somehow I fall for it all over again because in one moment , just one, I remember the laughs and peace we shared and I change the facts with my heart and mind that you actually may be real for that one moment then maybe for eternity. But then again reality covers me with darkness when it repeats its ways.

The desire to be happy with the one you think about at night before you sleep and wake up wondering if all is good with that one could not be a bad thing, could it? The tears of rejection turned the white sheets to brown because the reason for the tears just could not come clean.

Say something yourself and stop leaving me dumb because I do not know what is. 

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Just a thought

She is not desperate .
The way she feels is the way she knows how to. Too clingy or too distant can never be enough to love if that is not what you want.

The guys will disrespect you because you are true to your feelings and will call your pretense when you do not show too much because you try to guard ‎yourself.

Let this be a compromise. Be honest and safe then she will run to you as you want her to. Do not push her into something without helping her get in slowly.

Do not judge because you have no idea why. You have no idea how scared she is and why. Do not push her down because you think you have the upper hand. It is just a thought!

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