The heart that loves you

The rules about what constitutes infidelity are different for everyone, and you probably shouldn't let me or anyone else give you a premade prescription for setting comfortable boundaries and expectations in your relationship. 

But how bad is your relationship that you are trying to find an easy way out of that unpleasant situation, cheating your way out knowing quite well how out you will be eventually. You have a friend that you have a secret relationship with. Could be friends with benefits or emotions could be involved, and you tell yourself that it's okay because to you no healthy, sane person can possibly get everything they need from just one person. 

What more could you need from your partner that you are not satisfied with all what he or she brings to the table including him/herself. You can't be in love with someone you cheat on. What kind of love is that if you are comfortable hurting your significant other? That's not love, that's greed.

You get too comfortable because you were told that a person who truly loves you will never leave you no matter how hard the situation is. Part of the reasons why we hold unto something so tight is because we fear something so great won't happen twice, and that's how we misunderstand life and love. The love and faithfulness your partner has to offer you shouldn't let you think otherwise. Forgive the heart that hurt you, but don't hurt the heart that loves you.